A thought for today... or maybe a few... I asked Mac to take a photo of me today and my initial thoughts were of how ‘big’ I was. I nearly didn’t post the photo because I was ashamed. Yes, ashamed. This is how we’ve been conditioned to think these days- to actually worry about how much space we occupy on earth and how we will be judged. How utterly devastating is that? My body is quite incredible- as are ours all! It’s birthed children, it’s protected me from heat and cold, it continues to (mostly) work despite the hatred I’ve felt towards it. It’s carried on in various sizes- bigger or smaller, it’s still ME, and how much space I occupy does not determine who I am, good or bad, kind or evil, funny or miserable I am as a human. I refuse to praise people now for weight reduction- it does not make you a better person for losing weight and my feelings towards you are still the same. You are amazing no matter what size. To praise someone for taking up less space indicates they were worthy of our praise before. Your worth is NOT determined by size. End of. I am truly sorry for the times I felt I was helping out talking about how to lose weight, further perpetuating this idea what we weren’t worthy at a larger size. I am truly sorry for the years I have wasted trying to occupy less space. I am truly sorry for thinking it would make me happier to be that person who’s life would be better once I ‘lost x amount of pounds’. I am truly sorry for the years I spent bingeing and restricting in order to reach someone else’s idea of what is healthy and/or beautiful. I am so sorry for talking about dieting and succumbing to diet culture. I am heartbroken to realise I’ve been sucked into hating myself so much by society. I am sorry for years of punishing myself with exercise in order to ‘earn’ food instead of loving how it feels to move for the joy. We don’t have to ‘earn’ the right to eat food- we need food to live! I am sorry for judging food as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ and ‘clean’ and other such #NUTRIBOLLOCKS. Food is food. End of. It does not have any kind of morality attached to it. It’s only ‘clean’ if you wash it with soap and water. I’m sorry for feeling like we needed labels on how we eat and who we are. I will not morally judge anyone on how or what they chose to eat. And finally, I am so so so sorry for hating myself. Your size is fluid and can and will change. It deserves only love. Stop fat shaming. Stop judging. Stop hating yourself. Stop comparing. Recognise the wonder that you are and lavishing yourself with all the love it deserves. Kassi x
Buy the damn flowers
Buy the flowers… just buy the flowers. Don’t wait for someone to buy them for you, don’t wait for a special occasion, every day is a special occasion. Just buy the damn flowers.
Don’t put off buying the sunny bunch of roses in Aldi because it’s £2 you weren’t planning on spending- they’ll look pretty and they’ll make you smile because you bought yourself flowers. They’ll add a bit of sunshine into your day so just buy the flowers. You’re worth it, make sure you know that so BUY THE DAMN FLOWERS!
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The Importance of Lighting
Excuse my miserable face but I was literally minutes away from being violently sick 😂🙈 but I wanted to show you the difference that lighting makes on your makeup. I have a lot of brides that come to me and say they want a natural look- out of these 2 looks- which one looks more natural to you? What if I told you this was the same look on the same day, just different lighting? First photo I took with my ring light, second photo was in my bathroom, natural lighting (and my hair back obviously).
So when you have a makeup trial, take photos in different lighting as you might not like it initially but under natural light and/or a photographers flash it will look totally different!
Let's talk skin
Let’s talk makeup/skincare/no makeup- as a makeup artist, I’ve seen all kinds of skin- young, old, acned, scarred, pierced, wrinkly, tanned, smooth, tattooed and the rest. What I can tell you is that pretty much 100% of people aren’t happy with theirs and this makes me sad. What I can assure you is this- our skin is amazing, it protects us and keeps our insides inside, regulates our temperature and it our largest organ- be grateful for it and take care of it. Wear SPF, cleanse it properly daily even if you don’t wear makeup, moisturise (it doesn’t need to be expensive!) , try and eat a balanced nutritious diet (if it’s possible) and drink water, also make sure to get enough sleep. Please bare in mind that genetics plays a huge role as well- some people are just lucky!
Lets try and normalise that NO ONE has perfect skin. Let’s love what we have and take care of this precious organ!
If makeup makes you feel more confident then wear it, if you can’t be arsed with it, that’s cool too! It’s taken me 50 years to be comfortable in a bare face but grateful I am 🙏🏼
Do you know your personality colour?
I was recently recommend an audio book to help me with my ‘side hustle’ business but strangely enough I’ve found it extremely helpful in so many more areas of my life.
The theory is that there is 4 different personality colours (it’s very basic and not intended to be based on scientific proof) but rather a way to help you figure out about yourself and how to communicate better with others. Being able to figure out what another persons colour is will help you use language that will appeal to them and strengthen your relationship- whatever kind it might be- friendship/work mate/family etc
I found it really helpful and I’ve decided I am a blue with a lot of yellow. Basically I have conversational ADD, I am social and love building friendships and relationship.
What I didn’t expect was it to help me in my hair and makeup business! I had a client the other that after our trial she messaged me to say she wanted her hair more structured so when I showed up on the day and listened to her chatting I realised she was a ‘green’ and quite analytical and logical so a hairstyle that was less bohemian and more precise would be more her style.
I think in this day and age where we tend to communicate less with spoken word and more with texts and messages (a perfect way to be misunderstood) anything that can help us with that communication is helpful.
What do you think? What’s your colour?
What’s this all about then?
How did this come to fruition?
Around 3 years ago I did a bit of blogging but it just wasn’t me. I was trying desperately to emulate other online entrepreneurs and doing a pretty shit job of it to be fair…
This morning I was posting onto my social media about a current ‘must have product’ according to the beauty bloggers of this world and realised I should be making more of it- after all, isn’t word of mouth the best form of advertising?
I can’t promise this will be any better but now I plan on writing about what is currently on my radar and I’m loving. I think (and hope!) this should keep me authentic.
I’ll write about what I know and love and perhaps what I don’t- but I’m not about negativity… so maybe just what I love? We will see, this is a work in progress.
Oh, and why the name? Because I am a Unicorn- the shiniest fucking unicorn in the room to paraphrase one of my favourite quotes. My best friend actually came up with it because I wanted unicorns and rainbows and mermaids- all the important shit, something that really represented who I am as a person.
Thanks for making it this far dear reader,
Kassi x
The Journey Begins
Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton